Thank you so much for using my website to assist you in learning more about adoption and assisted reproductive technology.  You can use the links below to access more pages and resources that are both on my site but also link you to third party sites.  While I provide links to resources on other sites, I do not guarantee the information on another website, however, I do my best to provide links for what appears to be relevant and reliable information in my areas of practice.  If you are interested in becoming a client, please complete the CONTACT US form to schedule a consultation.


  • Adoptive Parents Committee (APC) is a non-profit parent support group comprised of volunteers dedicated to improving all aspects of adoption and interim (foster) care. 
  • The Adoption Law Handbook - written by Jennifer Fairfax, published by the ABA.
  • Center for Adoption Policy - Extensive website providing research, analysis and education to practitioners and the public about current legislation and practices governing domestic and international adoption in the United States, Europe, Asia, Latin America and Africa.
  • Center for Adoption Support and Education - A non-profit organization dedicated to providing support and education to everyone in the adoption community.
  • Child Welfare Information Gateway - Child Welfare Information Gateway provides access to information and resources to help protect children and strengthen families.
  • Creating a Family is a nonprofit providing education and support for infertility or adoption. 
  • Infertility & Adoption - Providing a place of learning, growth, connection, and support to those who are or will be raising "chosen" children.
  • Internet Adoption School provides information on independent, agency, and international adoptions. The website has online educational seminars to help you plan a safe, ethical, and loving adoption. 
  • National Adoption Center - Their inspiration comes from the belief that there is no unwanted child, only unfound families. From that they provide the following free adoptive services: Public Awareness and Recruitment, Information and Referral and PublicationNational Council for Adoption - Support to both domestic and foreign efforts that ensure every child lives, grows and thrives in a safe, permanent and loving family.
  • National Adoption Foundation provides adoptions grants, adoption loans, adoption funding, and other alternatives to help fund adoptions. The Foundation’s programs are available to any family whether adopting a child domestically, abroad or from foster care. 
  • National Adoption Center Its inspiration comes from the belief that there is no unwanted child, only unfound families. From that it provides the following free adoptive services: Public Awareness and Recruitment, Information and Referral and Publications.
  • PACT, An Adoption Alliance - Dedicated to providing adoption-related services to children of color, their birth parents and adoptive parents.


  • American Adoptions - American Adoptions is a licensed non-profit adoption agency providing adoption services to birth mothers and adoptive families. Call 1-800-Adoption to learn more.
  • Adoptive Families Magazine - Adoptive Families, the award-winning national adoption magazine, is the leading adoption information source for families before, during, and after adoption.
  • Building Your Family: the Infertility and Adoption Guide is a one-stop resource for adoption, assisted reproductive technology (ART), infertility, egg/embryo/sperm donors, and surrogacy information.
  • Friends in Adoption - A non-profit, licensed adoption agency whose goal is to help people make informed decisions about adoption.
  • Internal Revenue Service - Adoption Credit - You may be able to take a tax credit for qualifying expenses paid to adopt an eligible child (including a child with special needs).
  • Jewish Adoption - Jewish parents hoping to adopt, Jewish adoption professionals, forums full of adoption information for Jewish families, an adoption registry to search for Jewish birth families, waiting kids, scriptures, poetry, family stories, and much more.
  • Potential Parents - A community of hopeful, loving families waiting to grow through open adoption.
  • RGAdoptionConsulting - Adoption consulting support for adoption parents. 


  • U.S. Citizenship and Immigration - US Citizenship and Immigration Services (USCIS) is the government agency that oversees lawful immigration to the United States of America.
  • Kidsave - The Summer Miracles Program gives families to older orphans age 11 to 14 who have little chance to be adopted in their own countries through an oprhan hosting program.  This program is open to all families types including same-sex families. 


  • Family Pride Coalition -
    Through advocacy, support and educational activities, advances the well being of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender parents and their families. Promises positive public policy for families of LGBT families. Provides written guide to starting local LGBT parenting groups.
  • Center For Kids - This Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center provides a home for the birth, nurture and celebration of our organizations, institutions and culture; cares for our individuals and groups in need; educates the public and our community; and empowers our individuals and groups to achieve their fullest potential.
  • PFLAG (Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) -
    Promotes the health and well being of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgendered persons, their families and friends through support, education and advocacy.
  • Proud Parenting -
    Providing community support for gay and lesbian members and their families.
  • Rainbow Families -
    Provides local programs to the LGBT families, extended family members in an effort to secure family equality in all 50 states.


  • The Donor Sibling Registry - An article by  Ellen Singer, LCSW-C, Adoption Program Specialist at The Center for Adoption Support and Education, Inc  on "Talking with Children Conceived Through Donor Insemination, IVF with Egg Donor or Surrogacy".


  • All About Surrogacy (AAS) - Community of Surrogate Mothers, Intended Parents and Egg Donors that is built by the members, for the members.
  • Fairfax SurrogacyA full service Surrogacy Agency
  • GIVF InstituteRecruits anonymous sperm donors to help others build their families.
  • Surrogate Mothers Online (SMO)Ad postings for surrogate mothers and intended parents.
  • Miracles Waiting - Embryo Donation - A  non-profit organization dedicated to providing valuable and up-to-date information on all aspects of embryo donation, as well as offering embryo donors and recipients the opportunity to find each other and allowing them the freedom to work out the details on their own terms.
  • National Embryo Donation Center (NEDC) - A non-profit organization whose mission is to protect the lives and dignity of human embryos by promoting, facilitating and educating about embryo donation and adoption.


  • Adopting in America: How to Adopt Within One Year, by Randall Hicks
  • Adopting After Infertility, by Patricia Irwin Johnston
  • You CAN Adopt, by Susan Caughman
  • Adoption: The Essential Guide to Adopting Quickly and Safely, by Randall Hicks
  • Adoption in the United States, by Henry & Pollack
  • Adoption Nation: How the Adoption Revolution is Transforming America,by Adam Pertman
  • Dear Birthmother, by Kathleen Silber
  • I’m on it: What adoptive parents would like you to know about adoption (A Guide for Relatives and Friends), by Elisabeth O’Toole
  • The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Adoption, by Christine Adamec
  • The Family of Adoption, by Joyce Maguire Pavao
  • The Five Love Languages of Children, by Gary D Chapman and Ross Campbell
  • Telling the Truth to Your Adopted or Foster Child
  • Tell Me a Real Adoption Story, Betty Jean Lipton
  • Truly Yours, Laura Dale
  • Mothering Without a Map: The Search for the Good Mother Within, by Kathryn Black (good for Dads too!)
  • Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew, by Sherrie Eldridge
  • Lifegivers: Framing the Birthparent Experience in Open Adoption, by James L. Gritter
  • Making Sense of Adoption, by Lois Melina
  • Journey of the Adopted Self: A Quest For Wholeness, by Betty Jean Lifton
  • The Handbook of International Adoption Medicine, by Dr. Laurie C. Miller


  • The Complete Lesbian and Gay Parenting Guide, by Arlene Istar Lev
  • Donor Insemination Guide: Written By and For Lesbian Women, by Leslea Newman & Diane Souza
  • The Lesbian Parenting Book: A Guide to Creating Families and Raising Children, by Merilee D. Clunis & Dorsey G. Green
  • For Lesbian Parents: Your Guide to Having Your Family Grow Happy,Healthy and Proud, by Suzanne Johnson
  • New Essential Guide to Lesbian ConceptionPregnancy, and Birth, by The American Psychological Association Committee on Lesbian, Gay & Bisexual Concerns, Committee on Children, Youth & Families, and Committee on Women in Psychology (Available through the American Psychological Association, Washington, D.C.)
  • The Ultimate Guide To Pregnancy For Lesbians: How To Stay Sane and Care For Yourself from Preconception through Birth, by Rachel Pepper
  • The Queer Parent’s Primer: A Lesbian and Gay Families’ Guide to Navigating Through A Straight World, by Stephanie Brill


  • A Tiny Itsy Bitsy Gift of Life, an Egg Donor Story, by Carmen Martinez Javier
  • How Babies and Families are Made: There is More Than One Way, by Patricia Shaffer
  • Mommy Was Your Tummy Big?, by Carolina Nadel

What expenses can be paid to the birth parent(s)?

In the District of Columbia, an adoptive family may only pay for medical, counseling and legal services related to the adoption for the birth family.  The District of Columbia prohibits paying for living expenses or providing clothing, food or gifts to a birth family.  In Maryland and Virginia, a birth mother may obtain reasonable and necessary living expenses if she obtains written confirmation from her doctor that she is unable to work due to the pregnancy.

“I believe in working with each of my clients—in support of their family dynamic—to make the dreams of parenthood a reality. Whether you are single or married; or gay; a step-parent, a surrogate or intended parent or a child of adoption, it is my mission to serve as your advocate. With a dedication to the ethical and sensitive nature of each situation, I will help you understand the laws within Maryland or Washington, DC for adoption or surrogacy, and pledge to be your partner throughout the journey.” - Jennifer Fairfax