How to Find Intended Parents

If you have it in your heart to become a surrogate and help someone else to become a parent, then finding intended parents will be an important step in your journey. As a surrogate looking for intended parents, it’s important that the family you carry for is a good fit for you.

Although Jennifer Fairfax, LLC does not provide “matching” services for surrogates or intended parents, we can help you learn more about beginning your surrogacy journey and advise you on how to find intended parents in Virginia, Maryland, Washington, D.C., and beyond who will be the right fit for you.

Contact us to learn more about how to find an intended parent as a surrogate in DC, MD or VA, and how we can legally represent you throughout your surrogacy process. Or, start with our guide below for a basic overview if you’re a surrogate mother looking for intended parents in Maryland, Virginia or the District of Columbia:

The Different Ways You Can Find Intended Parents as a Surrogate

There are three different options for finding intended parents to carry for as surrogate:

Carry for someone you know:

Quite a few women are inspired to become a surrogate for someone close to them, like a friend or family member. Of course, in these circumstances, you won’t need to learn how to find intended parents. You will, however, still need to work with an experienced surrogacy attorney to complete the process and legally protect everyone involved. If you already have someone in mind that you’d like to become a surrogate for, contact us now to get started.

Use a matching professional to find intended parents:

For surrogate mothers who feel more comfortable having a professional screen and select the intended parents on their behalf, a surrogacy program is an option. Matching programs present you with profiles of waiting intended parents that you could match with based on your shared goals and preferences.

Search for intended parents on your own:

You can connect with intended parents who are also searching for a surrogate through personal networking, word-of-mouth, “intended parents classifieds” or other means independently of a professional. Again, you’ll need to work with a surrogacy attorney to complete your surrogacy process, so contact us first to learn about safe and effective ways to find an intended parent in VA, MD, D.C. or anywhere in the U.S.

Questions to Ask Intended Parents

When you find a potential match with an intended parent, it’s important to know that your goals and expectations for the surrogacy process are aligned before you take the next steps together. Asking the right questions can help you gain a better understanding of whether or not you’d be a good fit for one another.

For many women, it’s important that they find a family who fits the image of the kind of people they wanted to carry for, as well as someone who will be on the same page as they are regarding important surrogacy issues. Consider asking:

  • What’s your family like?
  • What are your hobbies and interests?
  • What are your strengths as a couple? (If applicable)
  • What’s important to you? What are your personal values?
  • Why did you choose surrogacy?
  • How long have you been thinking about surrogacy?
  • How committed would you say you are to the surrogacy process?
  • What are you looking for in a surrogate?
  • What kind of relationship would you want to have with me throughout the surrogacy process and after the baby is born?
  • Do you plan on using egg and/or sperm donors or your own?
  • How do you plan on talking to your children about surrogacy? What do you plan on telling them about me?
  • What will you need from me during the pregnancy?
  • In what ways do you want to be involved throughout the pregnancy?
  • What are your thoughts on selective reduction or pregnancy termination?

These are important questions that all surrogates and intended parents will need to discuss together at some point, so it’s good to talk about these things earlier to learn whether or not it’s a good match for both of you. We are experienced at guiding these conversations, and can ensure that the important decisions that you and your intended parents ultimately agree upon are solidified within your surrogacy contract before you take any medical steps.

We’re proud to represent women like you who have felt inspired to help others to become parents. We provide you with the expertise, guidance and legal protection necessary for you to safely and successfully help parents achieve their dreams of having a family. When you have your initial consultation with us, we’ll discuss what you might be looking for in potential intended parents and the different ways you can go about searching for and partnering with hopeful parents.

While we don’t match surrogates and intended parents, we can offer expert advice about finding intended parents in Washington, D.C., Maryland and Virginia as well as help you complete the complex legal steps of your surrogacy process. Contact us now to learn more about how to find intended parents in Maryland, Virginia, Washington, D.C., and beyond, and how we can represent you in your pursuit to help others achieve their dream of parenthood.

“I believe in working with each of my clients—in support of their family dynamic—to make the dreams of parenthood a reality. Whether you are single or married; or gay; a step-parent, a surrogate or intended parent or a child of adoption, it is my mission to serve as your advocate. With a dedication to the ethical and sensitive nature of each situation, I will help you understand the laws within Maryland or Washington, DC for adoption or surrogacy, and pledge to be your partner throughout the journey.” - Jennifer Fairfax