What expenses can be paid to the birth parent(s)?

In both Maryland and the District of Columbia an adoptive family may only pay for medical and legal services related to the adoption for the birth family.  The medical expenses include the cost of counseling for the birth parents.  Maryland and the District of Columbia prohibit paying for living expenses or providing clothing, food or gifts to a birth family 

WIll our surrogate have medical insurance?

Usually insurance will cover pregnancy and delivery, with relevant deductions or co-pays.  You will know when matched with a surrogate what type of insurance she has and/or if we need to arrange for a policy for her, which is very likely.  There are many insurance plans that now exclude a surrogate pregnancy.  The good news is that there are also plans exclusively for a surrogacy arrangement that will insure coverage. 

Are there age limits for adoption?

Many agencies do have an age limit in which they are willing to work with for domestic adoption and many foreign countries have age requirements but they vary from agency to agency and by country.  You should discuss this with an adoption attorney.  There is no age limit for an independent adoption; however, birth parents often select the adoptive parents so each case is specific to the birth families personal preferences.   

RESOURCES

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Adoptions
 

 AAThe Adoption Law Handbook written by Jennifer Fairfax, published by the ABA.

Adoptive Families Magazine
http://www.adoptivefamiliesmagazine.com/
Adoptive Families, the award-winning national adoption magazine, is the leading adoption information source for families before, during, and after adoption.

Center for Adoption Policy
http://www.adoptionpolicy.org/
Extensive website providing research, analysis and education to practitioners and the public about current legislation and practices governing domestic and international adoption in the United States, Europe, Asia, Latin America and Africa.

Center for Adoption Support and Education
http://adoptionsupport.org/
A non-profit organization dedicated to providing support and education to everyone in the adoption community.

Child Welfare Information Gateway
http://www.childwelfare.gov/
Child Welfare Information Gateway provides access to information and resources to help protect children and strengthen families.

Friends in Adoption
http://www.friendsinadoption.org/
A non-profit, licensed adoption agency whose goal is to help people make informed decisions about adoption.

Infertility & Adoption
http://infertility.adoption.com/
Providing a place of learning, growth, connection, and support to those who are or will be raising "chosen" children.

Internal Revenue Service - Adoption Credit
http://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc607.html
You may be able to take a tax credit for qualifying expenses paid to adopt an eligible child (including a child with special needs).

Jewish Adoption
http://jewish.adoption.com/
Jewish parents hoping to adopt, Jewish adoption professionals, forums full of adoption information for Jewish families, an adoption registry to search for Jewish birth families, waiting kids, scriptures, poetry, family stories, and much more.

National Adoption Center
http://www.adopt.org/assembled/home.html
Their inspiration comes from the belief that there is no unwanted child, only unfound families. From that they provide the following free adoptive services: Public Awareness and Recruitment, Information and Referral and Publications.

National Adoption Foundation
http://www.nafadopt.org/
Dedicated to providing financial assistance, services and support to families, before, during and after their adoptions are final.

National Council for Adoption
http://www.adoptioncouncil.org/
Support to both domestic and foreign efforts that ensure every child lives, grows and thrives in a safe, permanent and loving family.

PACT, An Adoption Alliance
http://www.pactadopt.org/
Dedicated to providing adoption-related services to children of color, their birth parents and adoptive parents.

Potential Parents
http://www.potentialparents.com/
A community of hopeful, loving families waiting to grow through open adoption.

U.S. Citizenship and Immigration
http://www.uscis.gov/portal/site/uscis
US Citizenship and Immigration Services (USCIS) is the government agency that oversees lawful immigration to the United States of America.

Center For Kids
www.gaycenter.org
This Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Center provides a home for the birth, nurture and celebration of our organizations, institutions and culture; cares for our individuals and groups in need; educates the public and our community; and empowers our individuals and groups to achieve their fullest potential.

Family Pride Coalition
http://familypride.org/
Through advocacy, support and educational activities, advances the well being of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender parents and their families. Promises positive public policy for families of LGBT families. Provides written guide to starting local LGBT parenting groups.

PFLAG (Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays)
http://pflag.org
Promotes the health and well being of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgendered persons, their families and friends through support, education and advocacy.

Proud Parenting:
http://proudparenting.com/surrogacy
Providing community support for gay and lesbian members and their families.

Rainbow Families
www.rainbowfamilies.org
Provides local programs to the LGBT families, extended family members in an effort to secure family equality in all 50 states.
 

Donor Conception Network
http://donor-conception-network.org
A set of unique resources for parents of donor conceived children and the professionals who support them.

The Donor Sibling Registry
http://www.donorsiblingregistry.com
An article by  Ellen Singer, LCSW-C, Adoption Program Specialist at The Center for Adoption Support and Education, Inc  on "Talking with Children Conceived Through Donor Insemination, IVF with Egg Donor or Surrogacy".

Egg Donation and Surrogacy Professional Association (EDSPA):
http://edspa.org
Offers a forum for communication, education and advocacy for patients using gestational/traditional surrogacy and egg, sperm or embryo donation

Parents via Egg Donation:
http://www.parentsviaeggdonation.org
Created for parents and parents-to-be, by parents and parents-to-be to provide useful information and guidance when using an egg donor.

Embryo Connection
http://www.embryoconnection.org/
Resources on professional, medical, legal and moral issues about embryo donations.

Miracles Waiting - Embryo Donation
http://miracleswaiting.org/
A  non-profit organization dedicated to providing valuable and up-to-date information on all aspects of embryo donation, as well as offering embryo donors and recipients the opportunity to find each other and allowing them the freedom to work out the details on their own terms.

National Embryo Donation Center (NEDC)
http://www.embryodonation.org
A non-profit organization whose mission is to protect the lives and dignity of human embryos by promoting, facilitating and educating about embryo donation and adoption.
 

The Tinina Q. Cade Foundation (TQCF)
http://www.cadefoundation.org
TQCF is a non profit organization that serves the needs of families battling infertility. The TQCF also provides financial assistance to families pursuing infertility treatment or domestic adoption through the Tinina Q. Cade Foundation Family Building Grant (Deadline for scholarship is Sept. 15, 2009 $10,000 grant for infertility or adoption). This dual approach distinguishes the foundation as the only organization of its kind in the nation.

The American Fertility Association (AFA):
www.theafa.org/
National non-profit organization is a lifetime resource for infertility prevention, reproductive health and family building.

American Society for Reproductive Medicine (ASRM):
http://www.asrm.org/ 
Non-Profit organization devoted to advancing knowledge and expertise in reproductive technologies.

Creating a Family:
http://www.creatingafamily.com/
A nonprofit providing education, resources, and support for those touched by infertility or adoption.

Infertility Answers, Inc.:
http://infertilityanswers.net/
Information on third party reproduction.

Infertility Network
http://infertilitynetwork.org
An independent, registered Canadian charity which strives to provide support and information to help people make informed choices about their family-building options.

Infertility Resources
http://www.greatinfertilityresources.com/
Source of articles and information about infertility.

National Infertility Network Exchange (NINE):
http://www.nine-infertility.org/ 
National not- for- profit organization for persons and couples with impaired fertility.

RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association:
http://www.resolve.org/ 
A community for women and men with infertility, providing information and support.

All About Surrogacy (AAS):
http://www.allaboutsurrogacy.com/ 
Community of Surrogate Mothers, Intended Parents and Egg Donors that is built by the members, for the members.

The American Surrogacy Center (TASC):
http://www.surrogacy.com/ 
Find Intended Parents, Gestational Surrogates and Egg donors while maintaining privacy.

Surrogate Mothers Online (SMO):
http://www.surromomsonline.com/
Ad postings for surrogate mothers and intended parents.

GIVF Institute
http://www.123donate.com
Recruits anonymous sperm donors to help others build their families.

California Cryobank, Inc.
http://cryobank.com/
A full service sperm bank providing a comprehensive resource for frozen donor sperm, private semen cryopreservation, and specialized reproductive services (including egg and embryo storage and artificial insemination guidance).

Conceive:
http://www.conceiveonline.com/ 
Leading the field in providing family-building information for future parents.

Embracing Hope:
http://embracinghope.org/ 
A foundation created by a strong, determined, and courageous cancer survivor, dedicated to encouraging and inspiring those battling cancer and to help fund cancer research.

Capital Pride:
www.capitalpride.org

DC Black Pride:
www.dcblackpride.org

Equality Maryland:
www.equalitymaryland.org

Gay Family Foundation:
www.gffonline.org/home.cfm

Mautner Project:
www.mautnerproject.org

Rainbow Families:
www.rainbowfamiliesdc.org

Wanda's Wills:
www.womeninthelife.com/wandaswill.html

Whitman-Walker Clinic:
www.wwc.org

Women in the Life:
www.womeninthelife.com